The Field Notes
What Shadow Work Actually Means (A Plain-English Guide)
The term gets thrown around a lot now, usually with candles in the photo and a caption about healing. I want to tell you what it actually is, because the real version has nothing to do with any of that, and it's a lot more useful than the version you've probably seen...
How to Stop Over-Delivering for Clients Who Are Never Happy
There's a particular kind of tired that comes from doing one more thing for a client who was never going to be satisfied no matter what you handed them. Not the good tired from a hard day's work. The other kind. The kind where you've just delivered something you...
The Night I Let Go of Needing to Be Loved
I was sitting on a bathroom floor in the dark. Alone. Somewhere in the middle of a plant medicine experience that had stripped away every story I'd ever told myself about who I was, and one thing wouldn't let go of me. I wasn't afraid of failing. I'd already proven I...
Why High-Achieving Men Feel So Lonely
I've told the story before about the night I was given one of the highest honours my company handed out. Five thousand people in the room, my name called out, the whole place on its feet. I sat back down next to an empty chair, because the one person I wanted there...
Why Success Feels Empty (Once You Actually Get It)
There were five thousand people in that room. I was being awarded one of the highest honours the company gave out, the first person in Australia to ever reach that level. My name got called, I walked up, and the room stood and cheered. I sat back down next to an empty...
Breath Over Force: Why the Calm Man Always Wins
Most men think power comes from force. More effort.More intensity.More push. But every real arena I’ve been in — the mat, business, relationships, life — has taught me the opposite: Force collapses under pressure.Breath holds.force collapses under pressure breath...